Dear Coquette,

Why is it that I can look at a hot guy, want to make out with him, and know it would mean nothing, but it makes me feel sick to my stomach if I think about my boyfriend doing it?

Because you are culturally conditioned to experience sexual jealousy.

Why do you say it’s important to have multiple relationships and/or sexual experiences/encounters?

Because one day you’ll be dead.

I am really hung up on the fact that everyone I love will die. Just the thought of losing people hurts so much I cry sometimes. How do I cope with this fear?

Quit whining and enjoy the people in your life.

Do people change?

Yes, but not how you’re hoping.

Is smart something you can go and get?

No, but books are. Never stop reading, and you’ll be fine.

How can a guy flat out ignore you after a few fun dates and some great sex?

Yeah, that happens all the time. Never take it personally.

Is four days too soon after a breakup to meet somebody new? Should it be more like four weeks?

It’s called a rebound. Enjoy yourself.

What if you’re not sexually attracted to your soulmate?

There’s no such thing as a soulmate, and if your partner doesn’t turn you on anymore, I suggest you both evaluate your sexual needs and then re-evaluate the terms of your relationship.

My family’s business just went broke and now we can’t afford to pay our mortgage. Any advice?

Don’t live in denial. Modify your loan or put your home on the market before you start eating away at your savings.

How do you make girl friends? Middle of college, my boyfriend and his friends are awesome, but I feel my social life is lacking.

Join something — a team, a group, or a club. Pick one with other girls in it, and participate without your boyfriend.

What is the difference between pain and suffering?

Pain is a tactic. Suffering is a strategy.

What do you think is the most unattractive characteristic someone can have, personality-wise?

Willful ignorance.

(Source: thedaily.com)